Parenting Children with Autism - Part 1
by Sharon Luscombe - Counsellor
Out of the Ashes Counselling Australia
You've just been told your child has Autism, or you've known for a while. Your reaction may be one of shock, grief, anger, sadness or a rollercoaster of emotions. These are all very normal. Every parent responds in different ways and other family members will respond in different ways too. It is very important that you allow yourself time to go through these feelings and emotions, to allow time for grieving for the loss of the hopes and dreams that you may have had for your child and to find all the support you may need. It's also important to talk to someone if you feel you need to, as the emotions will be wide and varied and to check in regularly with any other children in the family.
Your role as a parent of a child with Autism will now involve that of a teacher, an advocate, therapist, coordinator etc. Advocating for your child will be something that you'll need to gain the strength and understanding to do as this will be one of the most important roles you will have and a lifelong journey. Learn as much as you can!
Call organisations for information and join support groups. These are invaluable for parents who often feel very alone.
Helping your other children understand Autism will take love and patience. Being a parent of a child with Autism can be extremely stressful (and ultimately rewarding). Finding the time to complete everything that needs doing each day, as well as making time for other children in the family can be quite draining. However, the brothers and sisters of a child with Autism can face their own challenges. Younger siblings may not understand what is wrong with their sibling or be confused. They may be jealous of all the time their parents need to spend with their sibling or feel angry. They may feel embarrassed or frustrated that their sibling isn't able to join in and play with them as they would like. Some children quietly worry about their sibling due to lack of understanding or being able to comprehend what is happening, and may not be able to express their feelings fully. This can result in the child "acting out" or "misbehaving." As parents, it is very important to take the time to explain what Autism is and teach your other children how to play with their sibling, including how to get their attention and give very simple instructions. There are many books and teaching tools available.
There are also many sibling support groups available. If you can't find one in your area, why not be the person who starts one!
Below is a beautiful explanation of Autism by the Al Shams Centre in the United Arab Emirates.
Take the time to watch the little clip and share with those who you think could benefit from it.
With a little bit of help we can all do our part to make life just that little bit easier for those we know who are going through these rollercoaster of emotions. Be that friend who takes the time to reach out.
As always, don't do life alone. We're only a phone call away. If you're struggling and need someone to talk to, call Out of the Ashes Counselling Australia and make an appointment. We're more than happy to help. PH: 0431433690
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